Self centered vs. centered self

I don't remember where I was in this dream. The only two people in the dream are Swami and myself.

I was sobbing and complaing to Baba about my husband Rao. "He is very self-centered Swami. He doesn't get involved in children's activities. He thinks only of himself. He doesn't pay any attention to me or my two children". Swami comments "He is not self-centerd. He is centered self." I did not like the answer. I probably wanted Swami to agree with me and comfort me. Neither happened. I woke up.